Dr Sheila Ndyanabangi, is a marriage counsellor who also used to appear on NTV’s Let’s Talk. Ndyanabangi is also the principal medical officer for Mental Health and Control of Substance Abuse at the ministry of Health. Since Quick Talk found her talking about the proposed anti-tobacco bill…
How is that bill treating you?
It is tough. You know the control of alcohol, drugs and tobacco isn’t totally in the grip of the ministry of Health. ministry of Finance and Trade are concerned with it too. And people can be compromised.
I am telling you there is a lot of corruption. How can a doctor support tobacco use? At least alcohol has some benefits. Some of it can be used as food.
Oh yes, those calories. They can provide energy. And then give you a hangover. Do you take alcohol yourself?
I stopped. I was a social drinker and I used to go [to drink] with my husband. For religious reasons though, I stopped.
But before we talk about your family, tell me who your favourite MP is.
Uh-huuuh! It is hard to choose one now. All of them are there. Just! They are unpredictable. Hon [Chris] Baryomunsi is helping me with my bill, though. He has stood against the storm and I know I would have made him a minister if I had the power.
It is good to have some allies. Do you consider Baryomunsi the most handsome MP too?
Uh? Ahaaa, those I don’t care about. I’m beyond that. I look at beauty beyond the face.
Even if we talked about news anchors? [These MPs might just be too old to choose from, Gerald Karuhanga excluded.]
You want my friends to hate me? Maybe Maurice Mugisha [NTV].
What is your favourite food?
Huh! Is there one now? Maybe fish.
On to your family, what has parenting been like?
I have enjoyed my time because I had ample time with my children. Two of them, the girl and boy, attended boarding school for a while but we pulled them out. I joined Mothers Union in 1989 and we used to attend the union’s seminars on parenting. I decided to parent my children myself. I even told them about sex myself. [Ndyanabangi has three children. Now on to these self-administered sex lessons.]
The first time my son asked me (about sex), he was nine years. A man was giving lessons to prostitutes on condom use and he had a banana. My son asked me what the banana was. I told him it was his kacumu [ahem… penis]. He asked me whether the prostitutes played sex. I told him they did, with many men. [LOL. Such detail!] He asked me whether daddy and I played sex. I said yes, he is my husband.
We were told many stories of children being defiled during our Mothers’ Union seminars. I had to educate my children. One father found his daughter about to be defiled by a senior three boy. Another mother found out her houseboy was defiling her two daughters.
He used to bathe them and after their baths, he would rub his penis against them. When their mother said that the housegirl should bathe them one day, they refused. They said the houseboy had a special sponge that he used on them after bathing. The mother collapsed when she found out that her daughters were talking about a penis being rubbed against them. She was taken to Mulago (hospital) and that’s where I heard her story.
I had to tell my children about sex – in a healthy manner of course – after those stories. Some children may not know that they are being defiled.
About your marriage what is the most romantic thing you have done for your husband?
As Mothers’ Union [members], we give gifts on Mary’s day. This year, I gave him a gift. The others are routine things. [Quick Talk didn’t ask about those routine things. Routine doesn’t sound romantic, though.]
What is the last romantic thing that was done for you?
My husband bought me a flower last Friday. We were supposed to attend a dinner for married couples together but I stayed home because I had flu. My husband went alone and he came back with a rose for me. Those gestures are important, especially at this age. [Ndyanabangi, who is married to retired vet Nathan Ndyanabangi, is 58.]
Oh, that was nice. What other romantic gestures do you appreciate?
Just somebody telling me nice things. When I dress or cut my hair and it turns out well, I appreciate a compliment. I also like surprise gifts and telephone calls. When I am in bed, I like extra covers so he brings them and covers me.
Uh, that’s a lot of gestures! Thank you for the interview.
Thank you too, Quick Talk. I am blessed. I would marry my husband over again because he is a good father and husband.
Ndyanabangi was born in Kabale in a family of 11. She attended Hornby High primary school [it was both a primary and secondary school], Bweranyangi Girls’ SS and Mt St Mary’s College Namagunga. She studied human medicine at Makerere University and has a master’s degree in Public Health.
Source : The Observer