London Diary – ‘Monster Maid’ Has Been a Real Huge Eye-Opener

Jal Paddy,

The shock ‘Monster Maid’ viral video continues to send cold shivers across the kyeyo community.

I couldn’t bring myself to see the whole video clip of torture this Kisaasi maid meted out on the innocent child the first time round, but the same video just kept showing up from people everywhere.

I bet you sent it first, then it was followed by one from a friend in Cameroon, and another from an Indian work colleague on leave. The same clip also got to me from Dubai, United States and Gulu, plus almost everyone I know also got it from their own connections and contacts. At some point, I thought it wise to just avoid conversations surrounding the video, fearing the trauma of dwelling on such crude evil.

And yet here I am again. The issue of child care is a dilemma every working parent has to put up with in this modern rat race on the planet we inhabit. For our case, as a family, we are extremely lucky that we have a handful of relatives we can rely on to take care of the children when we are away at work.

This most importantly gives us peace of mind, saves us loads of money on child care costs and also guarantees that the children learn the same family values and morals that we were brought up on. But remember these relatives also have their own work, things to do and lives to lead, and so wifey has had to work part-time so as to be with the children.

Had this not been the case, we would have had to do with child minders in our local area or a day care centre. But even if such services are regulated by government or no matter how well-intentioned a child minder is, it is natural that most adults will mind or bring up a child in the way they were brought up in themselves.

Or they will do it the way they think is best to bring up a child. If that person sees no problem with babysitting your child in front of the telly all day long, then that is what will happen.

Unfortunately, you will only notice this when your child starts acting like and speaking with a Nigerian accent from all the daytime Nollyhood film she has been consuming. This is not to mention sleeping poorly or throwing tantrums as a result of the exhaustion from too much telly.

Those in the know, say the early formative years of childhood is when children are at their most absorbing and when parents can have the most impact to their future. Too bad that the hustles of life also demand our attention in equal, if not more, measure.

Heart-wrenching as this child-abuse video is, you are not going to hear of Kampala mothers quiting their jobs enmasse to take charge of their children. Same goes for the London mother.

Still, I believe there are more good maids out there than there are bad ones. However, to cut the probability of landing on the few bad ones, parents should run proper background checks on those they put in charge of their children.

The maid may also need guidance in the ideals and values you consider important to you. If you go to church every Sunday or to the mosque on Fridays as a family, it does no harm taking the maid along.

Tough world we live in.

Your friend,


Source : The Observer

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