In Uganda, victims of sexual harassment don’t only have to deal with the acts of perpetrators, but may sometimes find themselves on the wrong side with the police. Waza blogger, Lindsey Kukunda, compiled a step by step guide on how women can endure sexual harassment – while being ‘good girls.’
Have you experienced sexual harassment? From someone you know or a stranger? At least twice a week, you say? Well, have I got some great news for you.
It’s your fault.
That’s right. I said it.
It took three kind policemen to show me that life would be a jolly good affair if women would only go about behaving themselves.
Three men had sexually harassed me on the street one day, and I (oh bad mannered me!) delivered an ‘F’ bomb in their direction. Understandably upset, they ganged up on me for my temerity to not see that they were deserving of immediate sexual capitulation.
Because, you know, I knew them so well.
In what I now see was a moment of madness meriting admittance to a mental institution, I trotted to a police post a few meters away, and reported the matter. Blithely unaware of my part in the whole affair, I awaited a swift deliverance of justice.
Fortunately for me, the policemen turned out to be good Christians. Spare the rod, spoil the child, etc.
They told me that if I had only not abused the men, I would have had “a case”. I had “aggravated the situation” by “taking the law into my hands”. There was no way they could help me because I was a bad girl. Hit the road, they sneered.
Well, how nice to come face to face with such frank honesty! A fresh view on crime!
I have taken the liberty of compiling a step by step guide on how women (you hot sexy things) can endure sexual harassment while being good girls.
Mind your language
Hush now! Don’t say a word to your tormentors. When you go to a police station and report the matter and the police ask with keen eyes: “And you, what did you do after he touched you?” – you can hold your head up high and say “Nothing. I came straight here”. They can nod in satisfaction as you have given them sufficient justification to want to help you. Who’s a good girl? You are!
Are your morals in order?
You know, some of you women are fornicators who flirt in public and have more than two lovers a year. If everyone in your neighborhood knows you for the slag that you are, and a man (quite rightly too) judges you as deserving of a buttock groping, I beg you to save us and not disturb the police. They only help married women and virgins.
Speaking of which…
If you don’t dress like a virgin, please be sure you have invited whatever sexual reactions you elicit. I’ve seen women with exposed cleavages, lord a’mercy. If you’re not a lady, don’t expect to be treated like one.
There is a time to care, and a time to steer clear
“Out at this time, all alone. What do you expect?”
I have an acquaintance who went to a police station at two in the morning, make-up heavy and dress all a’glitter, as she reported a case of sexual assault.
“But now you”, they told her. “Out at this time, all alone. What do you expect?”
Remain calm under attack
I know a girl who reacted to an attempted robbery by beating the thief in question. Quick as lightning, a police truck arrived and she was hurled into it, and on her way to the police station before she could say boo hoo. The thief was not disturbed by the police or eyewitnesses.
Now if she had simply cried and screamed for help, instead of taking the law into her hands with her shameless display of self-defense, she’d never have been arrested.
You’re not married? Ooh la la!
Nowadays African women like to embrace ‘western’ culture. Co-habiting and what not. Acting like it’s proper. Please. If you’re not married to a man, you have no reason whatsoever to enter a police station and complain about him sexually abusing you.
I mean, hello? You have feet. Walk away. Your sexual partner must be accompanied with a ring before your complaint becomes legit.
Alcohol and cigarettes are for men only.
I once performed a dance of avoidance with a cheating, married Neanderthal who, in a last ditch effort to punish me for rejecting his sexual aances, said “Why are you pretending to be decent when you’re a smoker?”
Decency, mam’elles. Decency is the thing.
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